What do women want from men? What do those shumcks have that you don’t? On the surface it seems as though all some of them have is charisma, a chiseled body and careers that seem fun and exciting. I know, I’ve been there. I believe that the reality is that they possess the illusion of a leader. And that “beautiful Christian girl” should wake up while she can still walk away.
Knowing that women are looking for leaders, are you a leader? If you want a woman who has a heart for the poor, are you helping the poor? If you want a woman who knows how to cook a seven course meal for fifty, are you learning the art of cooking? Like it or not relationships have a certain rhythm and in the rhythm of love you take the lead. Women want to be with a man they can be proud of. Are you proud of yourself? Are you memorizing those verses? Are you offering to pray for people in their moment and then remembering to pray for them later? She’s watching to see if you’re going to be the leader she can safety hand her heart over to.
My brothers, anyone can buy a suit and pose as Mr. Important, few men have what it takes go the distance. BE A LEADER. If you need help, ask a mature brother in the faith to show you your weaknesses, Ask a sister for help. Most importantly, pray. She’ll notice that.
One last thing, if you’re reading this wondering what a leader looks like, spend some time in the gospel. Jesus was the greatest leader of all time, He’s playing for keeps and He’s gone the distance.
-Amanda Lima